Long Distance Relationship

Most people think that long distance relationship(ldr) wouldn't last long. They have this mind set that LDR is not a good idea. That is why, some couple agree to break up before they go aboard but sometimes one of them did not wanted to and some of them break up after being away for months. I do wonder why. If you really love them, why do you need to give up your relationship because of LDR? My cousin and her husband considered LDR but they still last for years until today. Her husband would visit her more than 3 times a year all the way from Germany and she would sometimes fly there to visit him. Probably they just don't meet each other for like 3 months or 4 months per year but that doesn't stop them to not to love each other. They talked to each other on the phone every day and skype. You might think that the man keep another women, but every man will have massive headache if they do keep 2 women at the same time. Is not easy to handle as you thought. So I really salute both of them - their strong love relationhip.

This goes same to my situation where my bf went to study aboard for a year. Before he left, he told his friends he wanted to break up with me so that I could find someone to take care of me when he left. I think it's quite a stupid decision and a stupid reason to chose to leave me. Ended up, he realised that he couldn't let me go and we promised to keep in touch when he left. I knew he worried about me more because of past history that happened to both of us. Everything starts from me where I have alot of guys surround me and I hanged out with them and something happened when we semi-break ups which makes him feel unsecure until today. I guess that's the reason why he wanted to let me go. He doesn't want to feel hurt when he got there if i found somebody new. However, I really felt sorry and regreted for what I have done but I still love him although he lose a little trust in me. We start to contact oftenly when he first reach there and slowly fade away after months but that doesn't stop us for not loving each other. I trusted him whole heartedly because I believe his course not much girls. haha.. Until I came here, I noticed that all his friends was guy and only a couple of girls. Although it's quite painful for the first few months when we don't get to see each other, we somehow manage to hold our relationship until we met each other last year when he came back. Honestly, we only web cammed like less than 10 times for 9 months. So imagine how strong we could streghten our relationship. It's because we love each other, very much. If there's problem we would share. We don't avoid the problem but to find solution instead.

My bff broke up with her bf because the guy called her and chat with her about his feelings without her and decided to called off. My bbf din't want to at first but ended up better call it off rather than pain forever. Therefore, I felt it's kinda weird because when she's working at oversea for a year, there's nothing happen between them. The reason this time was din't have the time to contact each other. It seems that my bbf loves him mmore than he does. If she din't want to break at first, why din't the guy find solution with her or even give it another try? She asked me how could I manage it and I told her I don't know and she said that different people has different situation. But after awhile, I start to think about it again; the question she asked how do I manage it?. I guess LDR is all the same. There are no reason I can think of "different ppl, different situation" as her bf's reason was "suffer because we can't contact each other regulary" which only 4 months they are seperate from each other! I did went thru this situation before but I manage to cover it up afterall - let the pain hit me rather than my loves one and not to push the pain to them. And, although they can't be there for you, you have friends but if you don't, you have your family.

Back to the question, I start to realised that perhaps it's because of how much you love your partner. When you love someone, you wouldn't want to make them sad, push all the blame to the relationship and try to find solution if you feels that it's pain without them as well as understand them. The reason I think that perhaps this guy couldn't stand loneliness and rather be single so that he has the chance to meet other girls. Seriously, my bf told me that a guy can't stand to feel like they have gf but they don't feel like they have. I told him about this situation and he said guys are like that. One of his friends I knew has 2 gf in his home country and 1 gf here. See, guys just can't stand without gf if they do have one in their country. Then immediately I stared at him and asked if he does that to me! He sweared he din't. If I wasn't here, I seriously can't trust him at all. So, thank god I'm here to see with my own eyes. Well, my bbf said just leave it to god and just see how it goes in the future. I hope the things I've suspected is not true because I din't want her to get hurt. Anyway, I don't know what are the exact situation. I only analyzed what she have told. Obviously, I don't trust her man whom I only met for months.

Guys would only say "i love you but it's too pain for us to continue with long distance relationship"

Hey, this is like saying i love you but i hate you! If you love someone means you love them and will go thru hardship together not love someone and give up the relationship. oh well, guys can't be trust :P trust urself.